Originally posted 2016-05-06 15:05:45.
According to Dr. Susan Newman, people pleasers want everyone around them to be happy, and they will do whatever it takes to keep them that way. Dr. Newman said, “for some, saying ‘yes’ is a habit.” For others it’s almost an addiction, it makes them feel like they need to be needed. This makes them feel important and like they are contributing to someone else’s life.
In this video, I am going to teach you a few communication techniques and tricks you can use to start saying “no” to others and “yes” to yourself.
In this video:
0:00 Intro
1:21 Step 1: Internal Validation
2:18 Step 2: Start With Small No’s
2:46 Step 3: Give Yourself Time
3:47 Step 4: Know Your Goals
4:32 Step 5: Get Rid of Toxic People
4:57 Step 6: Stop Apologizing
5:15 I’m Rooting For You!
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